MamaBlogger365 - Re-framing Motherhood by Ali Smith

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Before I was a mom, I wanted to know that if I became a mom, I would still be able to have my life, my self, my dreams, my hopes, my aspirations; that motherhood would be a gain and not a loss.

When I met moms, I’d ask them endless questions about how they did it all, to make sure I could do it too and not become a shell of the person I knew and liked. When moms told me that motherhood was the hardest thing that they had ever done, but that it was worth it and the rewards outweighed the hardships, I probably thought they were lying. I probably suspected that they were miserable and trying to make it sound like they weren’t. I had no point of reference for something that would cause me extreme discomfort and potentially mess with my career and cost me money but that would all feel worthwhile in my bones, underneath it all, in my heart and in my soul. I don’t think there is another point of reference for a paradox like that. read more

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