Identity & Individuals - Do Ur Kids 'Owe' You Something?

I remember vowing that I wouldn’t be that kind of parent.  That I would love my children through full acceptance, that I would separate my identity from theirs and give them the freedom to figure out who they wanted to be without my intrusions.  I vowed that I wouldn’t say “I wish he would just be more…” and “I wish she wouldn’t be so…” because I would know that they would figure their own lives out and I would accept them fully and completely as they are.  I would not push my goals on them; I would not insist that my life vision be theirs.  And above all, for god’s sake, I would not assume that they owe me something. MORE

MamaBlogger365 - Woman's Inhumanity To Woman by Dr. Phyllis Chesler

Female-female aggression is indirect and involves slandering, taunting and ostracizing one vulnerable female target, which is what happened in the South Hadley, Mass., tragedy. Often, envy of a girl’s beauty or brains, but just as often, the slightest difference (whether someone is new, an immigrant from another country, or school) will be seized upon by a female clique and treated as a high crime, an opportunity to tribally bond with one another — and as permission to torment the chosen outsider.

Dr. Chesler’s thirteen books and thousands of articles and speeches have inspired people on many diverse issues. More at www.phyllis-chesler.com

Additional article ‘Violence At School‘

Changing the way we 'Pink' it up!

As part of my ongoing radio work at WBAI in NYC, I am privy to powerful women's voices. Here's someone I just met (virtually, she lives in California) for the first time. Her name is Sikivu Hutchinson. Here is some of her work: Pink Princesses, Blue Commandos

My daughter is no princess. Loud, assertive, and headstrong, she would just as soon as stomp on a castle drawbridge with her big size six feet than pine coyly from it, twirling a dainty lock of hair waiting for a Ken doll suitor. Yet the multi-billion dollar media marketing regime is poised to shoehorn her 2 year-old self into being one. Read the full article here.